she's a character

while sitting on hillsboro road in green hills yesterday i was struck by a bank's billboard. it said remember your character is your destiny. granted, the phrase 'character is destiny' is cliche, especially in my life, having a professor (for 2 classes) who wrote a book called "character is destiny", but there was something about how the bank wanted to remind me of this...
this got me even trying to figure out what character even means...
dictionary.com defines it as "the combination of qualities or features that distinguishes one person, group, or thing from another.
how is this my destiny? what does destiny even mean?
again, back to dictionary.com where they say it means "the inevitable or necessary fate to which a particular person or thing is destined; one's lot."
so what this is telling me is... the combination of qualities or features that distinguishes one person, group or thing from another brings the inevitable or necessary fate to which this particular person (with the combination of qualities..) is destined.

does that even make sense?

i thought destiny was uncontrollable, would that mean that i am not able to mold my own character? and again, why is a bank reminding me of this?

my professor, dr. gough also says "character is what you are in the dark." which i whole-heartedly believe. then i shoot this question to you... does anyone know your true character? can anyone know your true character? another question i have been battling with, does God like my character? God totally knows who i am in the dark...

i am reading a book by donald miller (to own a dragon) right now and he tells a story of a girl who was given incorrect change at a conveinence store, the cashier accidentally gave her change for a $10 when she only gave him $1. she walked away knowing that she had profitted from her purchase and the cashier said she he had sold her character for $9. how many times have i sold my character and for what little money did i sell it? not so much for things like that but how many times have i compromised who i am for something stupid? let's just say that i am sure i don't have enought fingers and toes to count that...

have my flaws become habitual? have i become content with my shortfalls which in turn eventually mold my character into something that i didn't want it to become? it's like if i were painting a landscape and instead of taking the time to really bring out the differences in colors by choosing from a wide variety, i did it quickly with a minimal amount of colors that i didn't feel like mixing or purchasing others which may have made the picture more appealing.

that my friends, is how your character is your destiny. we let bad things become habitual which in turn is a little chip here and a little chip there on the wood block of your life... do you want to end up a splinter?